Monday, February 19, 2018

Dying As Gift



Growing up in a culture that embraced death has not been familiar to me.  In fact, we just did not talk about it even though it may have been on everyone’s minds.  Children did not go to funerals and certainly did not see the body of a deceased person.  If someone began to talk about their death, the usual response was – “now don’t talk about that – you are fine.”   All of those thoughts that came naturally about death, just got submerged deep within  and created a mountain of fear.   It has taken much unlearning for me to move away from this view point.

I recently ran across a meditation from Henri Nouwen entitled Dying Well.  It is a keeper.  It does not dismiss the idea of a bucket list but most of the things that many of us put on that list are self indulgent, leaving no lasting gift for the world from which we depart.  It is as though we are in this race to fit everything in that we could possibly want to do.  All of the attention is on me.  What if most of the things that we put on our lists are things that will continue to give after we are gone?  Can I give my spirit away every day so that I have none left?  Will that spirit continue on in the generations after me? 

The idea of dying well is life-giving to me.  It gives me a renewed energy towards my work, family, friends, home, church, and self.   Is it possible that this giving away of self is the abundant life that Jesus talked about?  This is a life that will never die.  This Lent may we let go of more of those things that do not matter, embrace the things that do, and give our life away.  


  • ·         Be present to whoever and whatever you are with

  • ·         Give of yourself completely to whatever task is in front of you

  • ·         Walk a little slower, taking notice of the abundance around you

  • ·         Let go of the need to buy and give more to what is sustaining for all

  • ·         Give thanks every day, even in sickness and death for this incredible gift of life we have     been given

  • ·         Use your gifts up!

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